Thursday, June 12, 2008

Potty Talk

With four boys you better believe I hear my share of potty talk. I'm not talking about anything really profane (yet), but the butt and poopy and stupid and crap talk is driving me absolutely out of my mind. I admit that my standards are a bit stringent here. But, with my oldest being 6 I think that's appropriate. My husband says, it's good that I don't allow it, that I tell them not to, but that I need to not let it get to me and maybe just lighten up a bit. Okay, he didn't say that last part, but I'm pretty sure it's true.

I am just rambling and thinking this through here. Sometimes I come here desperate and hoping one of you awesome people that read my blog has my perfect answer. And sometimes, in the midst of typing it all out I come up with something on my own. If nothing else, it's kind of therapeutic.

I feel it only fair to confess that my children learned the word crap and stupid from me. It's true. I'll never ever forget the day that my then three year old (Eric) was struggling to put his pants on and got two legs in one leg hole and said "Cwap cwap cwap." Oh that still makes me giggle. And I am notorious for calling inanimate objects stupid. But I swear that I have never ever called another human being stupid in front of them. Just things. Like pens that don't write, and other stuff that doesn't do what it should. Not that I'm above reproach with my language, but I do attempt to protect them from most of the ones I don't want to hear out of their innocent mouths.

I know without a doubt that it is not okay with me for them to call each other stupid butt, or poopy, or stupid little piece of cap (which actually came out of my 2 year old's mouth recently). I want to teach them to use words to build people up, not tear them down. There is enough negativity in the world and I do not want them to endure that in their own home. So, that I know. But should I lighten up on some of the other stuff. If it's not calling names but just being silly and a teensy bit naughty. That's what I don't know.

A friend of mine tells her boys if they are going to use potty language they can do it in the bathroom. The theory is that it won't be nearly as satisfying to use that language without the audience. My boys tend to play in the water in the bathroom so I hesitate to use that option.

My new tactic is to remove the potty talker from the room. A time out of sorts. Today I sent Mark to the formal living room to sit alone after he went on some tirade about poopy smelling something or other (directed to one of his brothers who did not smell poopy at the time.) It's been about 30 minutes and no more bad words so far... Maybe that will come through for me. I just hate feeling like the big bad mean momma all.the.time.

How do you handle potty talk. Am I too uptight? Do I need to tow the line on this one every single time? What are your thoughts?


Mary Kate said...
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Mary Kate said...

I think potty talk is something boys like to do because I never hear it from my 6 yo son unless there are other boys I can see your dilemma!

I wonder if you are so firm on this all the time you will wear yourself out trying to correct it?? Are they just trying to be funny or calling each other names? If it is hurtful then I would stop it also...but just funny...then I would probably ignore it.

What about praising the others when they are not using potty talk and not giving the potty talk any attention??...easier said than done especially with 3 boys who love to potty-talk each other for the laugh! I am just guessing?? I just know how hard it is to get mine to stop when he has an audience.

Hope that rambling made sense! good luck!

I would love to know how to get boys to pee in the toilet bowl...not on the seat or floor or wall.....

Justin & Angie Kimbro said...

My kids potty talk too. Carter loves saying stupid and pee-pee butthead. But it earns him a time-out EVERY single time. So now, he will accidently say butt and immediatly apologize and say what can I say Momma and I remind him that we use bottom not butt and then for the next 3 hours he asks me if he can say bottom and says thank you when I say yes.

Anyway.... I think it is good - I cannot STAND bad language (even though I have been known to say more than my fair share). I think you are doing well in raising smart, respectful little men! Keep at it - even though it is exausting!

Anonymous said...

I hear it all the time from Abigail. Maybe it is just the age?? I really try not to worry about it too much, but when it starts to bug me I ask them to stop. If they don't stop when I ask, then they get a time out for not obeying. I also don't allow them to use it for calling names (poo-poo head is the fav in our house). But if they are just being silly, I try to ignore it as much as I can. I think it is just a kid thing.

Kellan said...

I don't like it either and I have put many a kid in time-out for saying something they should not have. They learn not to - they do.

Have a good weekend - Kellan

Sue said...

Lord! I WISH I had the answer to this one. Especially when the 10 year old does it and the 7 and 5 year olds laugh uproarously. It's like stopping a steam engine. We do the bathroom thing, but yeah, sometimes they get into even more trouble in there. I'm thinking maybe they are getting old enough to CLEAN the bathroom now...

(And I am LMBO at "cwap, cwap, cwap" and "stupid little piece of cap"!!!)

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